Discussion in 'General Conversation' started by ldkitch, Jan 30, 2008.

  1. ldkitch

    ldkitch New Member

    Henderson, KY

    Is there a magic cutoff period when

    Offspring become accountable for their own

    Actions? Is there a wonderful moment when

    Parents can become detached spectators in

    The lives of their children and shrug, 'It's

    Their life and feel nothing?

    When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital

    Corridor waiting for doctors to put a few

    Stitches in my son's head. I asked, 'When do

    You stop worrying?' The nurse said,

    'When they get out of the accident stage.'" My

    Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing.

    When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little

    Chair in a classroom and heard how one of my

    Children talked incessantly, disrupted the class,

    And was headed for a career making

    License plates & as if to read my mind, a teacher

    Said, 'Don't worry, they all go through

    This stage and then you can sit back, relax and

    Enjoy them. My dad just smiled

    Faintly and said nothing.

    When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime

    Waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come

    Home, the front door to open. A friend said,

    'They're trying to find themselves. Don't

    worry, In a few years, you can stop worrying. They'll

    be adults.' My dad just smiled faintly

    And said nothing.

    By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being

    Vulnerable & I was still worrying over my

    Children, but there was a new wrinkle . There

    Was nothing I could do about it. My

    Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing. I

    Continued to anguish over their lives, be

    Tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in

    Their disappointments.

    My friends said that when my kids were married,

    I could stop worrying and lead my own

    Life. I wanted to believe that, but I was

    Haunted by my dad's warm smile and his

    Occasional, 'You look pale. Are you all right?

    Call me the minute you get home. Are

    You upset about something?

    Can it be that parents are sentenced to a

    Lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another

    Handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of

    Human frailties and the fears of the

    Unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue

    That elevates us to the highest form of life?

    One of my children became quite irritable

    Recently, saying to me, 'Where were you? I've

    Been calling for 3 days, and no one answered I was


    I smiled a warm smile.

    The torch has been passed.


    (And also to your children. That's the fun part)
  2. MRR

    MRR New Member

    Thats just part of parenthood .Oh well I guess were all sentinced to a life time of WORRY.From the moment they are conceived till the last breath you take.
    I have 1 daughter who drives me up the wall but darn it I still worry about her and she just turned 42.So I guess it don't never end.
    Thing is it don't stop with the children.Then you get Grandchildren and you get to WORRY about them as well.ISN'T PARENTHOOD GREAT!!

  3. CountryHart

    CountryHart New Member

    Kids will walk on your toes when they are toddlers. As they age they slowly begin walking on our harts. Momma said ya never pay for your raising till ya have some of your own. Mine are gone now, and trying to make a life for themselves but i still worry and probably always will.
  4. Pennsylvaniacatchaser

    Pennsylvaniacatchaser Well-Known Member

    Sarver, Pa
    I have 4 daughters and I don't think I will ever stop worrying about them! It's just the way it is! :cool2: