When I was young I never had any real firends. I didn't trust people enough. The friends I had would use you when they needed you and not have anything to do with you when they didn't need anything. As I grew older I softened a lot and decided there was a lot of real nice people in the world and I gave friendship another chance. But you know, I learned that I was right in my younger years. What I learned was you will always have friends as long as it is on your nickle. By nickle I mean if you are will to take the money or if you are willing to take the time. You cannot expect them to take the money or the time out of thier busy lives to be friends with you. For instance, you can go visit them as often as you want to. But they never have time to visit you. Or they won't take the money to drive all the way to your place. All though when you seen them the last time it was them that said we will have to drive to each others place and spend a few days together. But when the time comes they just don't have the time. Well that's alright, because I no longer spend the nickle first. The question we have to ask ourselves is what kind of a friend are we. Do we take time out for a friend. Are we a friend. So like I knew when I was a young man, friendship still depends on what we can do for our friends, not what our friends will do for us. If we wait we will still be waitting years from now. So now I ask, was I right all those years ago when I didn't trust people and had no friends. I thought I had several real friends when I joined the BOC but I've had one just drop me when he got a move up in the BOC. I stopped and visited another friend on my way back to Texas for an afternoon and spent the night with him. But now when he wants to go somewhere it sin't to Texas by any means. Then there are the friends that tell me when we are at a gathering to drive up and visit them for a few days and they will drive down and visit us for a few days. I've done that a couple times and have invited the other to come down but they never have time. Yet they are no more busy than I am and I always take the time to be a friend. I guess this is the American way.