Did I rob a bank, get a ticket for a DUI, beat my wife up, streak naked in the mall or whatever. The reason I ask, is that a lot of my friends have quit calling me and/or dropping by for a tall one. No, I did none of that, I have a terminal or life threating illness. Back in the early 90's, my youngest brother Jack was diagnosed with Renal Cancer and he was given twelve months to live. His whole world as he knew it turned upside down on him within weeks. The cancer thing, he figured was out of his control to a certain degree, but he could not understand what had happen to some of his hunting and fishing bud's. They did not call or visit him after they found out that he had Cancer. Jack and myself talked many times about his friends and how much it hurt him that they would not come over and at least just sit with him. Matter of fact, he called several on the telephone and let them know how he felt about their actions or inactions. He told me they would not have to say anything, just be with him. I believe Jack was upset with this situation up until his last day. When they held the services for Jack, it was a packed house with a bunch of people standing. Some of his closest bud's came forward at the proper time and told stories about themselves and Jack, they would have us laughing one moment and crying the next. Another one of his bud's sat in the front corner of the chapel playing some Hank Williams tunes on his guitar, the last one was 'Will the circle be unbroken', I believe that was the name of it. Afterwards, we were all invited to another one of his bud's house for a celebration of his life. The party went on for many, many hours. In May of 2001, I was diagnosed with Bladder Cancer, went to the hospitable and had the tumor removed. No big deal in my way of thinking, they got it and I would be okay. BS, several fellows that I had taught how to fish and landscape all of a sudden did not know me from Adams house cat. I got over it real quick, because in my own mind, I felt that I did not need any negative vives in my life at that time and moment, still don't seven years later. The reason I have shared this with the BOC membership is to encourage you to be there for your friends and family, when they are diagnosed with a terminal or life threating illness. You don't have to say nothing to them, maybe a hug, tight handshake, pat on the back, sit close to them and listen to them and others talk. Bring him or her one of their favorite mag's, adult beverage, sweets, food or whatever. Send them a card, fruit basket, pizza, etc. Just let them know that you care. You will be a better person for it and they will appreciate it very much.