Choose Your Words Well

Discussion in 'General Conversation' started by Ace, Sep 7, 2006.

  1. Ace

    Ace New Member

    Gastonia N
    A certain good woman one day said something that hurt her best friend of many years. She regretted it immediately, and would have done anything to have taken the words back. But they were said, impulsively, in a moment of thoughtlessness, and as close as she and her friend were, she didn't consider the effects of her words before hand. What she said hurt the friend so much that this good woman was herself hurt for the pain she caused. In her effort to undo what she had done, she went to an older, wiser woman in the village. Explaining her situation, and asked for advice. The older woman listened patiently in an effort to determine just how sincere the younger woman was, how far she was willing to go to correct the situation. She explained that sometimes, in order put things back in order, great efforts must be made.

    She then asked: "Just what would you be willing to do, to repair the harm done?"
    The answer was heartfelt. "Anything"

    Listening to her, the older woman, sensed the younger woman's distress, and knew she must help her. She also knew she could never alleviate her pain by living her life for her, but she could teach, if the younger woman would first listen, and then learn. She knew the outcome would depend solely on the character of the younger woman. She said, "There are two things needed to do to make amends. The first of the two is extremely difficult. Tonight, take your best feather pillows, and open a small hole in each one. Then, before the sun rises, you must put a single feather on the doorstep of each house in town.

    When you are through, come back to me. If you've done the first thing completely, I'll tell you the second."

    The young woman hurried home to prepare for her chore, even though the pillows were very dear to her, very expensive.

    All night long she labored alone in the cold. She went from doorstep to doorstep, taking care not to overlook a single house. Her fingers were frozen, the wind was so sharp it caused her eyes to water, but she ran on, through the darkened streets, thankful there was something she could do to put things back the way they once were. Finally, as the sky was getting light, she placed the last feather on the steps of the last house. Just as the sun rose, she returned to the older woman.

    She was exhausted, but relieved that her efforts would be rewarded.

    "My pillows are empty. I placed a feather on the doorstep of each home." Now, said the wise woman, "Go back and refill your pillows. Then everything will be as it was before."

    The young woman was stunned. "You know that's impossible! The wind blew away each feather as fast as I placed them on the doorsteps!! You didn't say I had to get them back!! If this is the second requirement, then things will never be the same."

    "That's true", said the older woman. "Never forget. Each of your words is like a feather in the wind. Once spoken, no amount of effort, regardless how heartfelt or sincere, can ever return them to your mouth. Choose your words well, and guard them most of all in the presence of those you love."


  2. bud1110

    bud1110 New Member

    East Texas
    That is so true my friend. Thanks for sharing your story with us...

  3. splitshot

    splitshot New Member

    Good stuff Ace, and so very true, thanks brother.
  4. wishiwasfishin

    wishiwasfishin New Member

    yeah the problem is I think I have a whole feather mattress blowing around sometimes. It is so easy to open your mouth and let a few lose lip words slip and sure at the moment I guess you feel better but what I have learned so far is a lesson something like the woman in this story..ya can never get them back.
  5. teaysvalleyguy

    teaysvalleyguy New Member

    GC, OHIO
    Another great post Ace, thanks for sharing buddy.
  6. Cheryl

    Cheryl Well-Known Member

    Thanks for the wise post, Ace. Wish I could remember to apply it all the time, but sometimes I just have to let it fly, once it has built up. And at times, I've realized that most people can't seem to let the past go and move on, with a happier outlook. The past can't be changed but the future can be built better from the experiences of the a cobblestone road.

    Take care, my friend.

    Everyone should read this post.
  7. thomcat

    thomcat New Member

    pennsylvania 17745
    thanks ace for sharing that story with us,,, how very true..
  8. dwreel

    dwreel New Member

    Southern Pines, NC
    So very true. Thoughtless words can cut like a knife. And the wound may never heal.

    Reminds me of a quote I once read," The good things we do are soon forgotten, the bad things we do follow us to the grave."
  9. Pastor E

    Pastor E New Member

    Beebe AR
    So true ace once said you can` bring them back:big_smile:
  10. gcarlin

    gcarlin New Member

    Richmond ,Indiana
    Very Good Post Ace . Its A Pleasure Reading Your Posts Brother.
  11. Wil

    Wil New Member

    Minden Nebraska
    ace has done it again, good post brother.
  12. JustCats

    JustCats Member

    North Carolina
    Very Good post Ace, advice we could all use.