I live in basically two different places and it isn't easy. An awful lot of pressure for just one person to handle and am writing this to try to help anyone thinking about doing this, and explain the pitfalls of this treacherous undertaking. I have a home on the outskirts of St. Louis Mo. that I share with my wife. I have a farm in Southeast Mo. that I share with two cats, Bob and Hoppy. Bob eats crawfish and Hoppy only has three legs When in the city, I make many decisions. Most of them are "do I do it now" or "do I listen to her yap until I do it". I do, however have total control over when it is time for a bodily function. Pretty much everything else is predetermined. In the city, when I cut the grass I cut it at right angles so it makes a pattern that she likes. I fire up the trimmer and edge everything in sight. When I am at the farm I have to decide (by myself) on whether to use the riding lawnmower or the brush-hog. I trim with Round-up. Sometimes I even let it go for a couple weeks until the ingrained guilt forces me to make the decision of "cut or probably die of guilt". I better get it done because she may ask. Television is another problem I don't have in the city. At the farm, I actually have to decide (by myself) which channel to watch. This isn't easy and I don't always do well on choices and occasionally have to lie about what I watch when questioned. At the farm, I actually have to decide (by myself) when to go to bed AND when to get up. Sometimes this decision is so hard to make, that I stay in bed till 10 or 11 am. Sometimes I even take a nap. In the city, I don't have that problem. Food is a BIG decision when at the farm. "To eat or not to eat" is something I have to decide on my own several times a day. If I decide "to eat" then I must decide on "what to eat", and often requires smelling leftovers to see if it is still good. Don't have any of these problems in the city. A bunch of places deliver. When at the farm, after I make all the decisions neccessary to have breakfast (or brunch) then I have to decide (on my own) how to dress for the day. After I decide on an "outfit" which usually is overalls, socks and workboots. Then the big problems come into play. What am I going to do today. Am I going to go fishing and if so, where? Which boat? The river or the lake? Outboard, trolling motor, or paddle? 2 hours, 1/2 day, all day, overnight, couple days? See how complicated this gets? Once in a while I even drive all the way to Wappepello lake (by myself) and have to negotiate curvy roads and stopsigns without any outside help.(I did have on clean underwear in case I had a wreck) Quite often it overwhelms me so much that I just sit on the front porch and watch the deer and turkeys. Don't have ANY of these problems in the city. Stores are another obstacle. There is only one grocery store within 20 miles and this sure helps. However, there are two Co-ops, and three places to get gas and diesel. Thankfully there is only one bait shop/convience store and it has a sorta deli-counter. This saves a couple decisions. Wall-mart is 60 miles away so I don't go there. I don't have to decide on any of this when in the city. I carry bags. In the winter I ocassionally go outside without a coat. Don't have this problem in the city. I know it is hard to believe but I have actually stayed by myself for as long as two weeks (360 hours) and lived! A couple times I did have a Tick on me but I remember my training and got it off BY MYSELF. I've even seen some spiders that I didn't have to smash. So, If anyone out there is thinking that it would be really neat to have a place to go and chill out for a while - remember the warnings that I have written about. YOU WILL HAVE TO DECIDE THINGS ON YOUR OWN to survive. This is too much pressure for the ordinary person - I've decided (on my own) to go take a nap.